“I was playing basketball at Gold’s Gym and everyday, I would notice this shining star working out, randomly through the gym and I always thought that she was way too pretty and probably came with a lot of…maintenance. So, in my mind, I was like ‘Look, I’m an easy-going guy. That’s probably going to be way too much. So I’m…yeah, I think she’s very pretty, but I’m never going to talk to her.
And so my workout partner one day, she walked in. We usually see each other in the evenings and one morning, she came in. Later, I found out that it was because they were going on a family trip. So she came in the morning when I normally work out and I was like ‘I think she’s beautiful, but she’s probably high maintenance.’ And my friend was like ‘No! I know her! She’s real laidback, real cool. I know her. She’s a real cool person. Easygoing.’ And I was like ‘She’s not high maintenance?’ And he was like ‘No. She’s cool.’ And so I was like ‘Well, I’m going to go introduce myself.’
And so I walked up to her and said ‘Hi! My name is Derrick Trussell and I’d like to date you.’ She was like ‘Well, are you dating someone now?’ And I was like, ‘Well, I wouldn’t ask you to date me if I was dating someone right now.’ And so she was like, ‘Oh, well I’m going to go finish my workout.’ And then I was like ‘Well let’s just do this. I don’t want to draw too much attention so let’s just exchange phone numbers and we’ll see what happens and that was it. And that was after 2 months of not approaching her!”
“Normally, I go to the gym between 5:30 and 9:00 at night. On this specific day in July…I think…I was on vacation. We were going to the family reunion in Detroit and I decided ‘Hey! I’m going to go to the gym during the day because I was off.’ So I went to the gym during the day. It was a Wednesday. And I was at the squat machines and I was talking to another gym member and Derrick just walks up and says ‘Can I date you?’ And I’m like I’ve never seen this guy before in my life and I was like ‘Ummm…?’ And he says ‘Well, I was waiting for my divorce to be final.’ And I said ‘Okay. Come back and talk to me when your divorce is final and he’s like ‘My divorce is already final.’ And I was like ‘Oh, okay.’ And so it was kind of like, he walked off and I walked off because it was awkward that some random person was like ‘Can I date you?’ and I’m like ‘Uhhhhh…’.
So anyway, now I’m over in the free weight section and he just walks up to me and he’s like ‘Listen. I don’t do the whole public thing so why don’t you just go ahead and put your number in my phone and we can just communicate over texts and phone calls and stuff. And I was like ‘Okay…cool, sure.’ So I put my number in his phone and later on while I’m still at the gym, now we’re communicating through text message. So he’s like ‘What are you doing after the gym?’ and you know…all sweet nothings like ‘You’re very pretty and you seem very nice.’ And so we were going to go out to lunch, but that didn’t go through and then the next day, we left to Detroit.
So while in Detroit, I was telling Melonnie [my cousin] about him and I was like ‘He seems really cool and we’re talking on the phone like high schoolers until 2 – 3 in the morning and so I was gone for a week. And while I was gone, he was texting me about who he was and stuff. And he was camping. And so one particular day, he was camping and this is how I knew he was Derrick…different. I enjoy camping. So I was like, ‘Oh you’re camping! I love to go camping. I love to go fishing.’ And he’s like, ‘No. I don’t like outside.’ So he sent me a picture of himself and he just had this “I’m very angry that I am out here in the sun” look. So I just thought that was funny. And so we were laughing and joking about that. And then he was just telling about what he does and how he’s up at 2- 3 in the morning researching the stock market and stuff. And I was like ‘Oh! I have a career-oriented person!’ Now I’m really interested and he was what I thought was outdoorsy. He works and he has a career and is serious about his career and so when we came back is when we started slowly hanging out. He came over a couple of times. So that was in July. We started hanging out…we moved fast. It was like 24/7, always hanging out or always on the phone.”